# get people to listen

I listened to a [Jay Shetty's Podcast](https://www.jayshetty.me/podcast) [episode](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfVcnrNcBz4) on principles to get people to _actually_ listen to you rather than tune you out.

1.  Keep your emotions in check [get calm before you speak, not during]
    
2.  Clarity beats passion [a clear message lands harder than an emotional one]
    
3.  State facts with safety [lower the perceived threat for people to actually hear you]
    
4.  More questions, fewer statements*[curiosity opens doors that declarations close]
    
5.  Tone and body language are what's actually heard [delivery is paramount, intent is secondary]
    
6.  Close the loop [alignment or a clear next direction]
    

Simple list, but not easy to execute under pressure. I'll be trying these out.

Happy hackin'

> "We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak" - Epictetus

### References

*   [Jay Shetty's Podcast](https://www.jayshetty.me/podcast)
    
*   [How to Communicate So People Actually Listen](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfVcnrNcBz4)